The constellations unfold slow ... Why?

"Your constellations are generally slower as is often usual", says feedback from many clients.

Systemic Constellations unfold hidden aspects slow for a good reason ..

"Constellation Work needs that Slowness for many reasons because if it works too fast, too many aspects will not emerge."

Sometimes it is as if a constellation will 'stand still' forever. Participants start to feel impatient. But often something similar to craniosacral work is happening. In craniosacral work we call it a stillpoint. It is as if nothing moves at all. Indeed the craniosacral rhythms appear to have stopped. These are known as the moments where all energy goes into the healing of the nervous system. Likewise, in a constellation, one can feel this vibration within the 'stand still' before a hidden dynamic becomes visible.

It takes time for a system to unfold; that is one reason. Another reason is that it takes time for all present to perceive the process of unfolding. Perceiving the process of unfolding supports an even further unfolding of systemic processes. It deepens a non-cognitive understanding of what actually unfolds. It helps to differentiate the hidden systemic from perceived emotions. It is a great advantage to take it slow.

Non-cognitive skills are the soft skills or interpersonal skills that individuals develop over time and with experience. Constellation Work helps to recognize how much we, almost blindly, rely on and need these skills.

I use various approaches in constellation work, and explanations are generally only used to give a suggestion. I try to avoid psychotherapeutic talk as this involves the brain. This is a delicate part in constellation work as the attendants want to understand the cognitive aspects with their brains, which influences non-cognitive understanding. One feels the 'change in the air' when the switch happens.

More or less hidden, yet still standing in the room, almost palpable are the entanglements and loyalties. It can indeed be deeply emotional work when, for instance, hidden entanglements suddenly become clear. It should be added, though, that constellation work, constellations, lead to deep releases, and even during the constellation, we see lots of laughter.